This week I want to talk about a crazy concept:
You are perfect as you are.
Yes, just as you are.
You may be saying to yourself, “Duh. Of course I am.” Or maybe you are not even able to fathom the concept.
For those of you who fall into the latter category, or somewhere in between, I want to share with you an experience I had with a man that really brought this home for me.
I was recently out to eat with a man I know. We were discussing health and fitness over a big fattening Southern breakfast. I was saying something about not being willing to do anything restrictive to lose weight and that my diet plan is to stop eating when I am full. He asked why I would want to lose weight. To me it was obvious…because I have an extra 15-20 lbs on me right now. Duh.
(Disclaimer: I am very happy with my body and love it. Releasing extra weight is a gift to my body and in no way has anything to do with my sense of beauty or self-worth.)
His responded with, “I know you are going to do whatever you want to do regardless of what I say (true), but please, don’t lose weight. You are perfect just as you are.”
In disbelief I say, “Even if that means I have a belly?”
Again his response, “Yes. You’ve got it goin’ on.”
Even though I don’t have a thing about having a few voluptuous pounds on me, it was still a shock to hear a man would prefer this version of me over the skinnier version. What’s even more surprising to me is that this is surprising to me.
I mean come on, I am all about empowering the Ladies and loving the Dudes and I am shocked that a man would prefer the more voluptuous version of me. Wow. Looks like I have not been giving them the credit they deserve.
Side note: all this lead me to believe that every other time a man has said something along these lines to a woman, throughout time and space, that he probably meant it. Again, Wow.
So Ladies, if you are like me and have trouble grasping that another would prefer you just as you are, I invite you to allow yourself to believe that it is true. If for no other reason than it feels really good.
To bring it home, this is not about what a man, or anyone else, thinks about you. This is about what you think and feel about yourself. If you love yourself just as you are YOU feel better and give others the gift of seeing you and loving you just as you are. Believe me, they WANT that gift.
Does this ring true for you?
Have you ever experienced loving yourself as you are?
Does this sound like crazy talk?
Any other thoughts on the subject? If so I would love to hear your comments below.